Why do some people quickly link up with mates who love them good and strong, while others gravitate to people who hurt them, dump them or withhold love?
It's all in the neurochemistry. I've come up with a metaphor that helps explain this painful syndrome.
When you're a little kid, you get used to your mom's spaghetti sauce; it's the one that tastes right, the one against which all other spaghetti sauces will be judged. (Please substitute latkes, baba ganoush, banh xeo or whatever; and for mom, use dad, another primary caregiver, or Boston Market.) When you leave home and get more experience,…